How to Ask a Girl Out on a First Date

By Mary Smith. Updated: January 16, 2017
How to Ask a Girl Out on a First Date

You know her, you've talked to her a couple of times and you'd love to ask her out. Now it's the time to ask her out on a date but you don't dare. How do I say it? When is the right time? What if she refuses? No doubt these questions are going around in your head. In this OneHowTo article we give you the necessary advice so you know how to ask a girl out on a first date quickly and easily. You just need self-confidence, trust and optimism to get the love you want.

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Steps to follow:

The first thing you should do when asking a girl out is not thinking of it as a date. Imagine that you are just going to do something fun together. Just think about the situation as if it's something simple. For example, if you are chatting with friends at a bar for the afternoon, invite her to go to the cinema around the corner to see that superhero movie or tell her you fancy eating some pizza and suggest you both go to that nearby pizzeria. If you're natural and spontaneous, you'll achieve success. Also, not thinking about it as a real first day will help you be less nervous.


Don't ask, just tell them. Don't ask "Do you want to go out for dinner?" or "Would you like to go to the cinema?" It's better to use statements like "Let's take a walk in the park" or "I'm inviting you out to dinner". That way, you don't give them much time to think and you'll avoid the stress of waiting for an answer.


Avoid using "serious" words. It is important to avoid being overdramatic about the date. In other words, turn it into something natural, simple and spontaneous. To do this, avoid using words or phrases such as "Do you want to date me?" or "Would you like to go out with me?" and, of course, banish the famous phrase "Would you be my girlfriend?" from your vocabulary. All this is very romantic but it can cause fear and awkwardness. It is best to let the things flow and don't suffer for romantic moments as these will happen in good time.

How to Ask a Girl Out on a First Date - Step 3

Don't ramble on. Be clear and concise regarding the date, time and place of the meeting. Don't say "We can go out one day", if you want to try to fix a date to make things clear. Self-confidence is one of the most attractive human traits, as well as giving the impression of not being a fickle person who will go back on a promise at the last moment.


Try to make plans where you can get to know each other better. Try to go on a quiet date which allows you to speak and communicate. Leave dates in night clubs, concerts and amusement parks for later on, as these generate large stimuli which will distract from what should be the main thing: you two.

How to Ask a Girl Out on a First Date - Step 5

Be yourself. Do not try to be someone else or who you think they would like. You must keep in mind that everyone tries to please others at first and that's fine, but you shouldn't change your nature in order to be with someone. What's more, it is unsustainable in the long run, so it's better to be genuine from the start. If it develops into something more, it will be because they like you as you are.


If they refuse, it doesn't matter. You may not have caught them at a good time, they may have other plans, they feel insecure or they simply don't fancy you. Communicate with her to know what she feels, but don't get bogged down and if she doesn't want to go out with you, leave it. Do not hold grudges and try to understand her. You need to learn how to handle rejection and have self-confidence. Remember that we have all been rejected at some point and although you're fantastic, you can't please everyone.

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