How To Date On Instagram

By Mary Smith. Updated: January 30, 2019
How To Date On Instagram

In recent years, Instagram has become one of the most popular social networks in the world, especially among young people. Instagram, which was initially started as a social media platform for sharing photos and building business, has also recently become a great application for meeting new people and dating! And the reasons why are fairly obvious. The reason for this is particularly because Instagram offers many similar features to most dating apps, like Tinder. For example; you can see pictures of the person, message them and find out about their likes and dislikes, all from just looking at their Instagram profile!

Are you wanting to slide into someones DMs, but don’t know how? Instagram dating can be a little tricky, that’s why we’re here to help you! For more about how to date on Instagram, keep reading here at oneHOWTO.

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Steps to follow:

The first thing you should do if you want to meet someone on Instagram or date someone on Instagram, is to show the type of person you are, through your Instagram profile. This, however, means making sure your Instagram profile reflects the real you. But how do you do this?

First of all, we recommend using varied and interesting photographs on your Instagram; preferably images that best represent what you and your life are about. No one wants to be with a person who is limited to just sharing selfies in the same position, try to be a little more creative and bold! You don’t only need to upload photos of yourself, but also opt for pictures of places you’ve been, foods you’ve eaten, artists you like, etc...

Quick tip; a cat and/or puppy photo never fails to grab someones attention! For more, feel free to take a look at our article on; How To Make Good Instagram Posts.

How To Date On Instagram - Step 1

If you want to date on Instagram, be careful when posting! For example, an image of you drunk on the floor may not be the most attractive and eye-catching thing to see. The way you can decide what the post on Instagram is by thinking, what would you like to see, and apply it to yourself.

You may be wondering how to flirt on Instagram. Well, what we can tell you is that flirting on Instagram is not very different from flirting in the real world and it’s not common that someone wants to date someone with a bad image. If you want to change your Instagram profile picture and change it for a more ‘eye-catching’ one, take a look at; How To Change Profile Picture On Instagram.


When trying to get a date on Instagram, pay attention to your Instagram Bio. Your Instagram bio gives you the best opportunity to write a little more information about yourself. This little space allows you to take the opportunity to talk more about; who you are, how you are, what your hobbies are, what you like and what you maybe don’t like.

If you don’t have a way with words, include your favorite quote or lyrics from your favorite song. Remember, that this is an opportunity for you to catch a little of their interest, the rest comes later!

How To Date On Instagram - Step 3

Right, so, other than making your profile interesting on Instagram, what else can you do to date on Instagram app?

If you want to date on Instagram without making too much effort, you can use the Glimpse app. This app analyzes the compatibly of two people by cross-checking the two Instagram profiles and their significant photos and information.

Once you have entered your personal information into the Glimpse app (age, location, gender and sexual orientation), you will select 9 photographs from your Instagram that you like the most. From there, the application will look through profiles which may match yours, and you will both be notified when it does. Once this is done, you can start private messaging, similar to Tinder.

How To Date On Instagram - Step 4

Another trick to meet new people on Instagram to eventually date on Instagram is by searching for people outside of your circle. You can search for hashtags of things you like, and search the Instagram feed to find people who like the same thing as you, and then follow them. Find out more about how to use hashtags on Instagram here!

How To Date On Instagram - Step 5

Once you have found the person you seem to like, you’re on the right track! Flirting on Instagram does however have certain codes and rules, which we will discuss with you here.

  • Don’t follow them immediately!
  • Likes their photos first, especially old photos. This shows them that you are interested enough to take time and look through their profile.
  • Don’t like too many photos. We suggest 2-4 over a fair period of time. Anymore than that will come across as creepy, you don’t want to make the person feel uncomfortable.
  • If a photo is nice, you can comment respectfully. For example, if there is a photo of a landscape or an interesting city, don’t be afraid to write ‘‘lovely photo!.’’

Most importantly, do not overwhelm this person with too much Instagram attention. If you like too many photos, or comment too much on their images (especially without knowing them), you can make a person feel uncomfortable. For more on dating tips, take a look at our article on: How Can I Make Him Notice Me?


If the likes have been returned, and the person has also been obviously paying attention to your profile, it’s time to make the next move. If they have a private Instagram, you may need to send them an Instagram follow request; which this person will approve or deny. If not, follow him or her normally and if this person follows you back, you can consider yourself one step closer to getting yourself a date!

Once you are both following each other, you can start sending direct messages, known popularly as ‘‘sliding into DMs.’’

But, how do you send ‘direct messages’ on Instagram? It’s very easy, and we show you exactly how to do this here;

  1. Open your Instagram app and click on the logo that looks like an archive or arrow on the top right of the screen.
  2. The next step is to press on the "+" button on the top right to start a new chat. The app will give you an option to search for who you want to send the message to, you can choose more than one person. Type in that person’s Instagram username and click on it.
  3. Once you have chosen the person. You can write a message in the message box.
  4. If you want to send a photo from your gallery click on the picture box next to picture logo on the bottom right.
  5. If you want to send a heart to signify you like the message you can click on the heart next to the picture logo on its right.

Remember, all images or videos you send in Instagram direct chat will be disappear after one view for security reasons. If you have just received it you can replay it, but not more than 2-3 times.

How To Date On Instagram - Step 7

Another trick you can use when wondering how to flirt on Instagram is to get someone’s attention on Instagram by tagging that person in a photo, post or Instagram story . It can be one of your own pictures, or a picture from a different profile that you think that person may like. To tag someone on Instagram, just @ + their username. For example, @username.

How To Date On Instagram - Step 8

Finally, Instagram gives you the possibility to share the pictures on other social networks like Facebook. Therefore, why limit yourself to flirting only on Instagram? Take advantage of this possibility and expand your search to other sites, so you have more options to meet new people. For more, scan over; How To Link My Instagram and Facebook Accounts.

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