How to Get Out of a Forced Marriage
Since early times, marriage has been seen as the union of two people and in some religion it is said to be union of two souls. But in a forced marriage this union turns into a jail for the girl. This shackled relationship either crushes the very soul of the girl or invokes the rebel within her. If the soul is crushed then the girl slowly ceases to exist as a human and become just a breeding machine whose sole purpose is to satiate the ego of her male partner. But if the rebel within her rises then she may try to find ways to learn how to get out of the forced marriage. Keep reading this OneHowTo article if you are one such rebellious spirit.
Get past your fear
The biggest weapon against a girl in a forced marriage is her fear. Everyone likes to play with it. Her family scares her by saying she will never get another groom. Her husband tries to control her by making her pregnant or just by inflicting verbal or physical violence. Finally her relatives scare her by labeling her as characterless if she tries to get out of marriage.
If you want to get out of forced marriage then the first step will be to get past all these fears. Most girls think it is not easy. But once you make up your mind you can do it.
If you get past your fears, then your family and / or in-laws may try to play upon your conscience. They will label you as selfish as you are thinking only about yourself. Do not fall into this trap. Thinking about yourself, loving yourself and your own freedom is never wrong, never. Living for your own happiness is your basic right. Let no one tell you otherwise. This is why you should try to find a close friend or relative that can give you support and help you during this process.
Make a plan
If you are in a forced marriage then it is possible that your husband won’t let you go away or divorce you easily. So, the most important thing is to make a plan. Understand what they want from you and act that way. For some time you may have to leave your dignity and submit to their whims but if it helps in the long run then do it, unless it implies any abuse on you. Nothing is worse that getting your rebellious spirit crushed. So, for some time let them believe that they have won till you figure a way to get out.
Go forward with your plans boldly but also strategically.
This is why, in the meantime, you should find a way to be financially independent to make sure you can stand on your feet on your own once the time comes.
Once your in-laws and husband believe that you are completely under their control, they will start cutting you some slack. Use this opportunity and contact solicitors or any person related to law and take their advice. There are various provisions of help for such women as per the law of their country and religion. Next, we'll try to sum up some of the possibilities you have in the most common forced marriage situations.
Forced marriage in Australia
You can easily get out of a forced marriage in Australia if you can prove verbal or physical violence in court. This abuse can be by the husband or any of the family members. You can also bring in any evidence of third parties that have participated in the arrangements for this forced marriage.
Forced marriage in Islam
This case is a bit more tricky, as the Islam community may treat the woman who wants to get out of the marriage as a pariah. This is why it's important to contact a solicitor and know the laws of the country you are in. If there is no legal way of getting out of the forced marriage, a woman's best bet is to leave the country.
However, you must know that the Koran says that Allah does not permit a guardian to marry off anyone without the person being consulted. If you were never consulted, you may have a case to be able to get out of this forced marriage by seeking annulment.
Contact others who faced same situation as yours
People who have faced similar situation as yours and have daringly got out of their own forced marriage can help you a lot. They will give you ideas and their stories will keep you motivated. If you ever have a chance to come in contact with such person then applaud their efforts and also seek their help and advice. You can also find and share your experiences on several Internet communities that are devoted to this cause.
Contact groups or organizations who fight against women abuse
There are various organizations all over the world which help women and girls stuck in abusive marriage. Seek their help. But make sure that your husband and in-laws do not get even the inkling of your intentions.
Take a look at sites such as Against Forced Marriages, where you will find a community of people who can help as well as finding more detailed information.
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