Many relationships suffer because there isn’t that spark in the bedroom. From all the things that could be going on, being bad in bed is a real concern for many couples. Your partner might not be telling you straight to the face that it is not working out; but deep inside, you know that you are not keeping up with as much as you would like. Sex is all about creating and feeling pleasure, and there is not a right or wrong way to do it. However, the saying says that with practice comes perfection, or at least an attempt to becoming better in bed.
In this oneHOWTO article we answer your question: what if I am not good in bed?
Can you be bad in bed?
There isn’t a clear-cut answer as to how to have sex. The truth is that as long as you take care of the fundamentals, you are free to experiment in the bedroom and engage in the practices that you both enjoy to do. This means that some people may want to engage in extended foreplay, while others may want to jump right to it and play with different sex positions.
That said, you can be bad in bed if you are not enjoying the sex and your partner has also issues with your sex performance. The key aspect is learning what your partner feels about your sex life and understanding why you are not meeting their expectations.
Signs you are bad in bed
Some nights, sex will be better than others; but if you notice a constant pattern of bad sex nights, that is a hint that something needs to change. It may be that you are going through some tough weeks at work and the last thing you may want is to have to think about spicing things up in the bedroom. However, sex life may actually help to relieve the stress.
Some of the signs that you may be bad in bed are if you focus too much on wanting to reach an orgasm and completely forget to take care of the needs of your partner. You might also notice that you reach to an orgasm very quickly; but your partner has a hard time getting to climax. This might discourage your partner from wanting to work on giving you pleasure.
How to become better in bed
As mentioned, your sex performance is not measured by a panel of experts; you just need to please the both of you. If you want to become better in in bed, try taking the lead and respond to your partner’s needs. Showing leadership; but being attentive to the indications coming from your partner will also score you some points.
Secondly, don’t be afraid to try something new and exciting. It may well be that what you have been doing until now is not your forte. Also, try giving it a little bit more practice because no one learns knowing how to do it all.
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