Why Do we Close our Eyes when we Kiss

By Mary Smith. Updated: January 16, 2017
Why Do we Close our Eyes when we Kiss

Passionate kisses often take place with closed eyes. We do not imagine them otherwise and if we've ever realized that our partner had their eyes open then we feel that they are not really interested in the act. No one has taught us how to kiss properly, we aren't taught at school that the basic rule when you kiss someone is that you have to do it with your eyes closed. It is something that just happens like the act of kissing itself.

You must have asked yourself more than once: why do we close our eyes when we kiss? If you want to know the answer, keep reading and you will be surprised!

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What are lips designed for?

The human body is designed so that all parts play an important role in any of the processes in which they take part in. The lips are no exception. Lips serve to keep our mouth shut when we eat, to hold objects in a clamp-like fashion or to suck such as when we are babies and need to breastfeed.

But one of the things for which we need the lips, which gives us the most pleasure, is to kiss. Kissing can cause high arousal, the same as even penetration. Kissing the person we desire or love is one of the things we can really feel, something that anchors us in the present moment and unites us with the other person in an extraordinary way, sometimes even more than sex itself.

Why Do we Close our Eyes when we Kiss - What are lips designed for?

We cannot do two things at once

Science tries to answer many universal mysteries when we aren't sure why they happen. One of them is the reason why we close our eyes when we kiss. The scientific answer is simple: humans cannot do two things at once and pay the utmost attention to both. Kissing involves a sense, touch.

Touch in the act of kissing is done through the lips, through the hypersensitive mucous membranes directly connected to the brain and that produce an extraordinary pleasure during the act of kissing (whenever you have the desire to kiss).

It is precisely for this reason that men and women close their eyes when kissing, and by doing so we can concentrate on that magical moment and enjoy the moment with that one sense, but at its best.

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Why Do we Close our Eyes when we Kiss - We cannot do two things at once

A matter of focus

Another quite interesting and sensible explanation is the problem approach. People cannot focus well on something that is so close to our face, which we find distracting. That's why we close our eyes, because otherwise we would see our partner blurred and that would probably take away from the intensity of the situation or even make it unattractive.

Also the act of kissing can be unsettling and make us nervous, especially if it is the first time that you've kissed that person. Closing our eyes relaxes us and we get carried away by emotion that overwhelms us. In short, it helps lowers our inhibitions in order to enjoy the moment and remember it later.

Why Do we Close our Eyes when we Kiss - A matter of focus

Don't trust those who kiss with their eyes open

In short, the kiss is almost a visceral, erotic, tender, sensual, chaste act but it is always felt. And, to really feel it, in your heart, in your gut, you have to close your eyes. It's almost unconscious but also necessary for the reasons we have stated above.

But there are also people who kiss with their eyes open. They aren't many of them, but they do exist. If you have encountered any of them and discovered their peculiar way of kissing, you will probably feel let down, rejected or disappointed.

People who kiss with their eyes open usually do not really feel the kisses that they are giving or certainly not with the same intensity. You may be afraid, feel very insecure or suspicious. It could even leave you clueless as you don't think that kissing this someone is that special and you keep your eyes open to see if you really believe it. But if you do that, you cannot enjoy that kiss, you will miss the magic and the small act of absolute surrender that develops between two people who really kiss, with their eyes closed.

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