How to Have Phone Sex the Proper Way

Choose the right time. Before having phone sex make sure that the other person isn't busy and can answer the phone in private so he/she doesn't hold back at all. We're not suggesting you plan the phone call- simply make sure that you ring at a time when both of you can talk and unleash your inhibitions.

Before having phone sex think about your voice; go for a very sensual tone and think about what you might say. Try to relax as much as possible and make sure you feel comfortable when making the call. It shouldn't sound false: you should be as open as you can, lie in bed, moan or even have a drink to loosen your tongue.

Prepare your room: make sure that it's not really untidy with mountains of paper and books and an unmade bed, etc. It's all about creating a comfortable, pleasant and relaxing atmosphere. You can dim the lights, light candles, add some scented flowers to the room or put on some sensual music.

You should feel sexy and pretty when having phone sex because this will be evident in your voice. So doll yourself up beforehand: you could have a relaxing bath, spritz a little perfume, shave your legs, put on some sexy lingerie and you could even start caressing yourself in anticipation of the experience.

When you call, use a smooth tone of voice and keep it low, like a whisper. Start slow to create suspense and build it up slowly as the phone call progresses.

But what to say at the beginning? A good way to start is to ask how their day is. But don't go into too much detail - keep your eye on the prize.

Tell him what you are wearing and be provocative. Take off your clothes one at a time and go into detail about how well the clothes show off your hips, your chest... They will love it.

Tell him things you know he'd love to hear, e.g. how you wish he was with you, how you miss his/her body, etc. You could even tell him/her which part of their body you prefer and how it makes you feel. Here's where you go into further detail, making sure you explain what you are doing to your own body and what you're imagining about his or her body too.

Tell him/her what you would like to do to him/her and what you'd like him/her to do to you if you were together. Say all of this slowly, starting by saying something like "first of all, I would stroke your hair, your face ..." and be more explicit as you go on.

You could also describe what you're doing whilst you're talking, as long as you feel comfortable. You could be as clear and bold as you want: you set your own limits. You excite him even more by asking him/her what he or she would like you to do.

Tell him/her how aroused you are which will be a sure-fire way of making him explode with pleasure. Describe your sensations, your pulse, your tingling, your sweat... They will love the fact that they are making you feel this good.

A good way of reaching heights of sexual pleasure is to talk about specific events in your sex life that were particularly memorable.

Another useful tip is to get a little help from your favorite sex toys such as a dildo, an anal plug or artificial vaginas. Don't be afraid to use them, and you don't necessarily have to let your partner know you're having a little extra help if you know that doesn't turn him/her on.

Are you more into sexual fantasies? You can also do some role playing if you prefer instead. In this case, you'll need to go into character from the beginning, whether your phone sex partner knows your role playing intentions or not. Make sure your partner understands that you are playing a character to have phone sex without breaking the mood.

For example, you could pretend you are calling for room service if you are at a hotel and your partner could be the waiter. Another common phone sex role playing game is to play the doctor and patient sex game. Choose the role you know your partner will enjoy the most and stick to it during the whole call.

With the appearance of smartphones, a little aid from a spicy photo you can previously send can warn your partner about your intentions and give him or her that extra to work on while you're having phone sex, especially if you go hands-free.

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