How to Masturbate for the First Time - Boys

How to Masturbate for the First Time - Boys

Masturbation is a natural way to pleasure yourself and explore some of your deepest fantasies. It is normal during adolescence for both boys and girls to start getting to know their bodies and arousing themselves with different stimuli. It is at this time when masturbation comes to mind as the best way to find pleasure. But many boys wonder how to masturbate for the first time, so at oneHOWTO we give you some good advice to help you learn everything you need to know about this topic with pictures.

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Steps to follow:

The first thing you need to know is that masturbation is completely natural. It is not harmful or hurtful in any way. You are not violating any moral or ethical rule, nor is there any problem with exploring your body and seeking to please yourself. Masturbating will allow you to achieve the following benefits:

  • It allows you to get to know your body better: Masturbating is a good way to discover what feels pleasurable for you, so that when you come to have sex for the first time, you have some idea of what you like.
  • It reduces stress: when we masturbate, the pleasure we receive during the process and the final ecstasy we experience during orgasm allows us to reduce stress and anxiety levels.
  • It helps control ejaculation: Getting to know your body will allow you to know when you are going to ejaculate and, therefore, will reduce the chances of premature ejaculation while having sex with your partner.

In this oneHOWTO article we tell you more about the benefits of masturbation that will help change your perspective on the subject and feel more comfortable when masturbating.


The first step to masturbate for boys the first time, is to choose a quiet place for your first time masturbating. The ideal thing is to be calm, without feeling nervous or scared that someone will find you. A good place is your room or your bathroom, at a time of day when you know that no one can interrupt you.

In any case, we advise you to wash your hands before starting. Why? If you have been out and about during the rest of the day and have been in contact with other people, your hands will be full of bacteria and dirt, so we don't want to touch our privates with dirty hands, do we? Once you have washed them, you can relax and start to masturbate for the first time.


There are all sorts of things that you can do to arouse yourself and make your penis become erect. Many guys opt for pornographic photos or videos, whilst others prefer to use their imagination. Whatever the case, focus on what will generate enough excitement to give you a good erection. While thinking of or looking at these images you can start stroking your penis with either hand. This will help to enhance the sensitivity in your penis so you enjoy masturbating more.

In this picture you can see how a penis changes from normal state to erect.

How to Masturbate for the First Time - Boys - Step 3

Once your penis is hard and larger than its usual size, you can begin to masturbate. With the hand you use most often, grasp the shaft of your penis. Hold it firmly but not too tightly, you should not feel discomfort or pain. Close your hand to completely hold your penis.

Now, you can start stimulation. Friction is what generates all the pleasure you experience in sex, and this is what you will create with your hand. Move your hand up and down the shaft of your penis, starting gently and then speeding up as you become more aroused and your penis starts to secrete a clear liquid (a natural lubricant).


The more focused you are on what arouses you while you masturbate for the first time, the easier it will be to ejaculate. The idea is to experiment and find out which is the speed that words best for you. You can gently stroke your glans (the head of your penis) and then return to stimulating the shaft with your hand. Just before you ejaculate, you will feel your whole body relax. You'll notice something rising up inside your penis, and that's the moment when you need to grab a piece of paper, a towel, etc., to catch the semen as you ejaculate in order to not make a mess everywhere.

If you are not releasing any liquid when you have an orgasm, don't worry. This is normal. Some boys don't ejaculate within the first years of masturbating. Most boys only begin to ejaculate between the ages of 12 and 15. It will come with time.

How to Masturbate for the First Time - Boys - Step 5

Although the technique is always the same, there are many ways to masturbate. For example, you may want to use a lubricant to make your penis more slippery. As you explore and find one that gives you the most pleasure, the important thing is to not be afraid. To help with this we've left some tips in this article to make masturbation more enjoyable and help you have a great time.

Your whole body will relax right before you ejaculate, you will notice how something is advancing though your internal penile conduct, this is a good time to get hold of a piece of paper, a towel, etc; so you can ejaculate on it and not stain your sheets or bedroom.

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Dante laforest
Am i gay?
I cant cum right
My cock doesnt get hard😢😢😢😢
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Dante,

Your sexuality shouldn't be a barrier to attaining an erection. You may simply not be ready. However, speak to a doctor if you are unsure.
Even though I don't ejaculate when I get orgasm, still it feels SOO good. Thank you so much, this really helped me! 👍👍
Dude you helped me out so much you helped me cum for the very first Time I kept trying ever since I was 13 and since I have found this as a 15 who has never cummed I thank you from the bottom of my heart if you have Any socials I would gladly follow you
I am wondering why when I start masterbating that I get a tingling feeling in my body. I stop and then I start again. I keep going until I get to that point. I try to keep going but my body won’t let me.
Everything is great and all, but how can i get orgasm faster? Because it takes me like 30 minutes to get it
Amazing, it feels great. But how can i get orgasm faster , cause getting orgasm takes me like 30 min
so im 13, ngl im kinda scared to do it. Is there anything else i should know?
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Jack,

The most important thing to remember is that it is normal and something you need to discover for yourself. There is no shame in it and if you have any practical worries, you can talk to a trusted adult.
Can you masterbate every day or is it spread apart? and im 11
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Lincoln,

There are no physical health risks for you to do it every day. As long as it is enjoyable and you feel OK with it, it should be fine.
Why did my penis hurt when I did this??
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Parker,

It is possible you may have done it too hard or rubbed it too much and caused friction. Although masturbating is safe when done right, it is possible that it can hurt a little if you do it a lot.
hi im 12 i was wondering what things i could use around the house for lube, cuz i dont wanna walk into a store and walk up to cashier and buy a bottle of lube. thanks
I heard moisturizer works
or lotion
it works
When I Masturbate I get the feeling that something wants to come out, but I don't know if its urine or semen. i'm 13. please help me out.
Hi, the best thing to do is to go to the toilet before you masturbate. Then during masturbation, if it feels like urine is going to come out, it's probably not and just semen.
It is totally normal this happned my first time I recommend doing it on the toilet for the first time or standing above it what ever shoots out can be flushed and cleaned easy.
ducan yotore
is it safe to use a shampoo bottle without my dick getting stuck
OneHowTo Editor

It would depend on both the size of the shampoo bottle opening and the size of the penis. However, if you are wanting to use the bottle for lubrication, it is probably not the right choice. The shampoo might irritate your skin and the bottle itself may cause abrasions. Using a lube from a store is best, but you can substitute it with coconut oil for a homemade alternative.
There is no semen coming even after a long time what should I do I am 15
OneHowTo Editor
Sometimes it takes a little longer to masturbate correctly for the first time. If this problem persists, you can consult your doctor. But for now, this is normal at first
Do not worry in rare cases you have to be very old to get result in this instance 18 in instance
I’m thirteen and when I masturbate I can’t orgasm or ejaculate is that ok? Thanks
OneHowTo Editor
Hi. It is normal that when people start masturbating they struggle to orgasm. Learning to orgasm requires some basic knowledge. There are different things that work for different people, so it’s just about finding what exactly you prefer!
i think this will help me alot. i will do and come here when i think im ready to but it helped me alot. am 11. i keep thinking it is wrong to so ive not yet but this is helping so thx
I tried this step to step and I felt great thx and also I'm 14.
Do i have to pull the forskin up and down or just stroke it (13)
You hold the shaft of your penis in your hand, and you move the skin of your penis up and down along the shaft of your penis. If you have foreskin there is no difference. Before you start you can pull back your foreskin or leave it as it is.
do you have to pull back the forskin to masturbate. I'm thirteen.
I pull it back before I masturbate because it feels nicer that way but you don’t have to.. You have to clean under your foreskin after you have ejaculated.
How to find boy fraind
Im 12 and queer
How long and how fast should I wank my self for I'm (13)
Maybe that’s different for everyone? And the time it takes is different every time. Just do it at the speed you like best.

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