How to Masturbate for the First Time - Boys

How to Masturbate for the First Time - Boys

Masturbation is a natural way to pleasure yourself and explore some of your deepest fantasies. It is normal during adolescence for both boys and girls to start getting to know their bodies and arousing themselves with different stimuli. It is at this time when masturbation comes to mind as the best way to find pleasure. But many boys wonder how to masturbate for the first time, so at oneHOWTO we give you some good advice to help you learn everything you need to know about this topic with pictures.

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Steps to follow:

The first thing you need to know is that masturbation is completely natural. It is not harmful or hurtful in any way. You are not violating any moral or ethical rule, nor is there any problem with exploring your body and seeking to please yourself. Masturbating will allow you to achieve the following benefits:

  • It allows you to get to know your body better: Masturbating is a good way to discover what feels pleasurable for you, so that when you come to have sex for the first time, you have some idea of what you like.
  • It reduces stress: when we masturbate, the pleasure we receive during the process and the final ecstasy we experience during orgasm allows us to reduce stress and anxiety levels.
  • It helps control ejaculation: Getting to know your body will allow you to know when you are going to ejaculate and, therefore, will reduce the chances of premature ejaculation while having sex with your partner.

In this oneHOWTO article we tell you more about the benefits of masturbation that will help change your perspective on the subject and feel more comfortable when masturbating.


The first step to masturbate for boys the first time, is to choose a quiet place for your first time masturbating. The ideal thing is to be calm, without feeling nervous or scared that someone will find you. A good place is your room or your bathroom, at a time of day when you know that no one can interrupt you.

In any case, we advise you to wash your hands before starting. Why? If you have been out and about during the rest of the day and have been in contact with other people, your hands will be full of bacteria and dirt, so we don't want to touch our privates with dirty hands, do we? Once you have washed them, you can relax and start to masturbate for the first time.


There are all sorts of things that you can do to arouse yourself and make your penis become erect. Many guys opt for pornographic photos or videos, whilst others prefer to use their imagination. Whatever the case, focus on what will generate enough excitement to give you a good erection. While thinking of or looking at these images you can start stroking your penis with either hand. This will help to enhance the sensitivity in your penis so you enjoy masturbating more.

In this picture you can see how a penis changes from normal state to erect.

How to Masturbate for the First Time - Boys - Step 3

Once your penis is hard and larger than its usual size, you can begin to masturbate. With the hand you use most often, grasp the shaft of your penis. Hold it firmly but not too tightly, you should not feel discomfort or pain. Close your hand to completely hold your penis.

Now, you can start stimulation. Friction is what generates all the pleasure you experience in sex, and this is what you will create with your hand. Move your hand up and down the shaft of your penis, starting gently and then speeding up as you become more aroused and your penis starts to secrete a clear liquid (a natural lubricant).


The more focused you are on what arouses you while you masturbate for the first time, the easier it will be to ejaculate. The idea is to experiment and find out which is the speed that words best for you. You can gently stroke your glans (the head of your penis) and then return to stimulating the shaft with your hand. Just before you ejaculate, you will feel your whole body relax. You'll notice something rising up inside your penis, and that's the moment when you need to grab a piece of paper, a towel, etc., to catch the semen as you ejaculate in order to not make a mess everywhere.

If you are not releasing any liquid when you have an orgasm, don't worry. This is normal. Some boys don't ejaculate within the first years of masturbating. Most boys only begin to ejaculate between the ages of 12 and 15. It will come with time.

How to Masturbate for the First Time - Boys - Step 5

Although the technique is always the same, there are many ways to masturbate. For example, you may want to use a lubricant to make your penis more slippery. As you explore and find one that gives you the most pleasure, the important thing is to not be afraid. To help with this we've left some tips in this article to make masturbation more enjoyable and help you have a great time.

Your whole body will relax right before you ejaculate, you will notice how something is advancing though your internal penile conduct, this is a good time to get hold of a piece of paper, a towel, etc; so you can ejaculate on it and not stain your sheets or bedroom.

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thanks a lot. :) I turned 13 a couple months ago and I wanted to ask if its normal that my cum is clear and not white but it is sticky and tastes sour. also after I cum should I continue?
First time it worked great but the next time it didn't work (the next day) after pls reply
Hi,I can't cum I don't know why when clear urine comes out when I'm trying to cum after the white urine stops my dick goes small again
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Lucas,

This clear liquid is likely pre-ejaculate. It is released before semen, but you might not be quite ready to ejaculate fully. It's important to know this isn't a bad thing. Take your time and don't force it, it will happen eventually.
Hi,ummm I'm trying to masturbate for the first time it hurts a lil and I get alot of clear liquid comming out then my Penis goes normal again what's happening?
I'm 13 and can not film a lot many only a fey drops how do I cum normaly?
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Justin,

You are likely just entering the stage where you will be developing sexually. The best thing you can do is take your time, know that it will happen eventually and to not feel anxiety about it. Rushing it might only cause frustration, but being relaxed will help.
Is it al right if I masterbat useing body wash like is it good to use as luber.
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Avery,

It won't work the same and it will make a thick lather if not used with water. It's generally messy and it can be irritating depending on the ingredient. Can help in the shower, but probably not to use outside of it and certainly not to be used with another person.
Hi I have done all the steps right but when I went faster it started to hurt why?
OneHowTo Editor

If you do it too long or too hard, it will hurt due to friction. If you start to feel pain, stop. Go slow and let it work naturally.
Dante laforest
Am i gay?
I cant cum right
My cock doesnt get hard😢😢😢😢
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Dante,

Your sexuality shouldn't be a barrier to attaining an erection. You may simply not be ready. However, speak to a doctor if you are unsure.
Diffrent people will get erections at diffrent ages it takes time and being gay wouldn’t change anything.
I am also gay and a bottom.
Even though I don't ejaculate when I get orgasm, still it feels SOO good. Thank you so much, this really helped me! 👍👍
Dude you helped me out so much you helped me cum for the very first Time I kept trying ever since I was 13 and since I have found this as a 15 who has never cummed I thank you from the bottom of my heart if you have Any socials I would gladly follow you
I am wondering why when I start masterbating that I get a tingling feeling in my body. I stop and then I start again. I keep going until I get to that point. I try to keep going but my body won’t let me.
Everything is great and all, but how can i get orgasm faster? Because it takes me like 30 minutes to get it
Amazing, it feels great. But how can i get orgasm faster , cause getting orgasm takes me like 30 min
so im 13, ngl im kinda scared to do it. Is there anything else i should know?
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Jack,

The most important thing to remember is that it is normal and something you need to discover for yourself. There is no shame in it and if you have any practical worries, you can talk to a trusted adult.
Can you masterbate every day or is it spread apart? and im 11
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Lincoln,

There are no physical health risks for you to do it every day. As long as it is enjoyable and you feel OK with it, it should be fine.
Why did my penis hurt when I did this??
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Parker,

It is possible you may have done it too hard or rubbed it too much and caused friction. Although masturbating is safe when done right, it is possible that it can hurt a little if you do it a lot.
hi im 12 i was wondering what things i could use around the house for lube, cuz i dont wanna walk into a store and walk up to cashier and buy a bottle of lube. thanks
I heard moisturizer works
or lotion
it works
You can use baby oil if you have one c: that works with me
I use Johnson’s baby lotion on the shaft and the bell end and it’s cheap to purchase
When I Masturbate I get the feeling that something wants to come out, but I don't know if its urine or semen. i'm 13. please help me out.
Hi, the best thing to do is to go to the toilet before you masturbate. Then during masturbation, if it feels like urine is going to come out, it's probably not and just semen.
It is totally normal this happned my first time I recommend doing it on the toilet for the first time or standing above it what ever shoots out can be flushed and cleaned easy.
Dude dont stop milking your willy till you cum . my firtst cum felt like I was going to piss too .
ducan yotore
is it safe to use a shampoo bottle without my dick getting stuck
OneHowTo Editor

It would depend on both the size of the shampoo bottle opening and the size of the penis. However, if you are wanting to use the bottle for lubrication, it is probably not the right choice. The shampoo might irritate your skin and the bottle itself may cause abrasions. Using a lube from a store is best, but you can substitute it with coconut oil for a homemade alternative.
There is no semen coming even after a long time what should I do I am 15
OneHowTo Editor
Sometimes it takes a little longer to masturbate correctly for the first time. If this problem persists, you can consult your doctor. But for now, this is normal at first
Do not worry in rare cases you have to be very old to get result in this instance 18 in instance
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