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How to Tell if a Woman is a Virgin

Mary Smith
By Mary Smith. Updated: January 16, 2017
How to Tell if a Woman is a Virgin

Do you think the woman you like may be a virgin? Although there is no way to accurately guess this, yes there are some types of behavior or attitudes towards sex that can help you tell if it is her first time. Nevertheless, at OneHowTo we recommend that if you want to know for sure, it is best that you ask her directly, respectfully and lovingly, perhaps she will feel confident enough to explain her sexual situation. But if you don't dare to take this step, keep reading this article where we show you how to tell if a woman is a virgin.

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It is important that you know that there's no sure sign that can tell you in a completely accurate way if a woman is a virgin. What we will show you then are some signs that might indicate that a woman is not sexually experienced, however, you can never know with absolute certainty if this is correct.

As we have already said, it is best to ask her directly to know how to deal with sex when the time comes but, if you wouldn't dare ask, you can observe her behavior, which can give you some clues on the subject.


You can know if a woman is a virgin if she always delays the opportunity to have sex. There are women who are bolder than others but if a person has already made love, chances are they're thinking about having sex with someone after they have been seeing that person for a certain time. We can't tell you how long this will take because, as we have said, this depends on each person and the relationship that you are carving out; if you aren't getting that feeling from her, it is probably because she does not want to go to bed with you, at least for now.

But if your dates are going well, and you've been on quite a few and yet you still haven't taken this step, it may be because she never has before. If you see that, in certain situations, she doesn't know how to act, if she doesn't known whether to you invite back to hers or she becomes uncomfortable when you begin to be more passionate, it may be that this is the reason behind it.

How to Tell if a Woman is a Virgin - Step 2

Another sign that can help determine this is to watch the way she behaves with you physically. Remember that, if she has never been touched in that way, you will probably get the impression that she feels awkward, doesn't know where to touch you, etc. So if, when you embrace, caress and touch each other you feel that she still isn't comfortable, it may be because she is a virgin.

But this is not 100% reliable because it is also possible that the girl is shy, nervous or is unsure. There could be many reasons but if you see that she has no idea what to do when things heat up, it may be due to lack of experience.


If when you are in bed, kissing and caressing each other, and you feel that she is restless, nervous and eager to stop it may be for this reason. Remember that, as a rule, women tend to spend longer on foreplay, like slower sex, enjoy the eroticism of the moment, and so on. Therefore, if you meet a girl who is restless and who doesn't seem to be enjoying it, it is probably because she is really nervous about whether or not penetration will hurt her so she might not even be paying attention to the foreplay.

This is why it is important that you ask her directly, because remember that girls need a little more foreplay than men do to fully enjoy sex. Caresses, whispers, passionate kissing, erotic massage and all this kind of foreplay are those that women prefer and, especially, for their first time. Therefore, be sure to relax her nerves, completely turn her on and make the experience just as good for both of you. At OneHowTo we show you foreplay for your first time.

How to Tell if a Woman is a Virgin - Step 4

You can also tell if a woman is a virgin when it comes to putting on the condom. But beware, because this can be a somewhat misleading sign as not all girls know how to put a condom properly, especially if she had had a steady relationship during which she was using other types of contraception (the pill, vaginal ring, etc.).

A virgin will, undoubtedly, not just have difficulty in terms of not knowing how to put on a condom but rather she won't be sure how to play with a penis: she won't know how to place her hands to do this, how firmly to hold it and other things. So if you notice that the girl is very clumsy it is probably because this is her first time.


And when you have reached the time for sex, you will notice if the girl is a virgin because, as we said, she will be nervous and she won't really know how to act. Remember, most women are afraid of their first penetrative sex because they don't know if it will hurt, if they will bleed, etc. Therefore, chances are she will not be completely relaxed, but be very aware of your movements and aim to control your penis at all times.

Most likely she will want to be the one who controls the initial penetration because this way, she won't get caught off guard; however, it is better not to do this in such a position because penetration will be deeper and since it is her first time it may hurt her. At OneHowTo we show you the best positions for your first time.

How to Tell if a Woman is a Virgin - Step 6

However, if the woman is a virgin in the most literal sense, that is to say, who has never been penetrated but who has had other sexual experiences (fondling, oral sex, etc.) then it will be complicated to put the advice into practice that we have just told you because obviously she will be safe in bed, know how to turn you on, how to play and how to move. The only thing that you be careful with is when penetration takes places but, as you see, this can lead to much more confusion.

So, we should emphasize again, that it is best to ask her directly so that you are both able to enjoy an incredible experience and take the necessary precautions if, indeed, it is her first time.

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