How Often Should Couples Make Love?

By Mary Smith. Updated: January 20, 2019
How Often Should Couples Make Love?

A common question among many people and many couples are: how long should we be having sex? Is there a normal amount of times a person can have sex? And if you’re married, does sex really decrease?

When it comes to sex, there aren’t any specific rules. Sex is more of a ‘to each their own’ type of situation. But if we look at how often the average couple has sex, we can garner enough information on what is the general ‘‘healthy’’ sex amount. Remember, when it comes to sex, it does depend on the specific couple and relationship. What may be normal for some in sex, may not be normal for others.

Nonetheless, if you want to find out more about how often should you have sex, keep reading here at OneHOWTO. We will be discussing the average number of times couples make love per week, in addition to discovering how often should married couples have sex.

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How frequently should couples make love?

How often do couples make love statistics? According to many psychologists and sexologists, working out how often couples should have sex a week, can prove to be quite difficult. The main reason for this is that most of the time it depends on the couple. However, because we are analyzing what is considered the ‘‘normal’’ frequency of sex, we here at OneHOWTO want to look at the most common figures among intimate relationships.

A study conducted in 2006 based on hundreds of American couples revealed that the average number of times a couple makes love is between 2 to 3 times a week. However, that said, this data is not very useful. It is not useful in the sense that these numbers depend on age. A young couple will have higher levels of libido than, let’s say, a couple of 60 years old. So maybe the question one should be asking is, for example, ‘‘How often do 60 year old couple make love?’’

In the case of young people under the age of 30, the average number of times they make love is once every 2 days. However, it is also necessary to differentiate between married couples and those who live together from those than live separately. This is because the level of intimacy and closeness between couples can also have an effect on how often they have sex.

How Often Should Couples Make Love? - How frequently should couples make love?

How often do couples make love in their 50s?

Now, let’s look at how often couple should have sex depending on age:

How often do 40 year old couples make love?

From 30 to 50 years of age, the average number of times a couple generally have sex is twice a week. But, it is important to remember that there are many factors involved and every couple is different. It is also important to note that when women hit menopause, their libido decreases significantly. Additionally, men between these ages can also begin to experiencing erectile dysfunctions. If you are suffering from erectile dysfunction, we recommend taking a look at our article where we offer you some natural alternatives to Viagra. If you are going through menopause and want to increase your libido, have a look at our article where we explain how to increase libido after menopause naturally.

How often do 50 year old couples make love?

In people over the age of 50, the average amount of love making is 4 times a month or once a week. However, this is only a statistic, and as we mentioned before, it can depend on various factors. For example, 33% of couples maintain the aforementioned regularity, while only 2% of couples over 50 have sexual relationships daily. On the other hand, 25% of couples over 50 no longer have sex or do so once in a blue moon. Opposed to what many believe, most (57%) of older couples that don’t have sex often do not miss it. In fact, in these such cases, sex is often replaced with comfort, trust, communication and humor.

We must also be clear that sexual frequency does not only decrease because of age, but also because of time. For example, a new couple will have sex more often than a couple that have been together for 5 years or more. Therefore, if you are 50 and have just met a new partner, you may have a very active sex life!

How many times should couples make love in a week? - Quality over quantity

Now that you know what is considered ‘‘normal’’ in terms of sex frequency, we can now look at the importance of quality over quantity in sex. In fact, many therapists argue that quality in sex is much more important than quantity.

But what is meant by quality within sex and a sexual relationship? The first thing we must take into account is the time frame in which the sex lasts. We must bear in mind that a woman needs between 5 and 7 minutes to reach an orgasm. If the sex lasts less than 6 minutes, it will be very difficult for the woman to reach climax. Therefore, if for example, the man may be experiencing premature ejaculation, problems between couples may arise. Also, remember, penetration is not everything and there are many other things you and your partner can do in bed to make sure everyone involved reaches climax. Vindicate the importance of preliminaries, which are as important as the penetration itself. Foreplay is your friend! So, don’t be scared to explore some sex games and take your time when having sex. For more, take a look at our article where we offer you the best sex games for foreplay.

In short, more important than the number of times you have sex a week, is the quality of the sex. Great sex once a week will trump bad sex 3 times a week. At this point you may find it interesting to know that a study done at the State University of Pennsylvania[1], states that a pleasurable and satisfactory sex sessions should last between 7 and 13 minutes. This time frame allows for enough time for both couples to reach climax.

How Often Should Couples Make Love? - How many times should couples make love in a week? - Quality over quantity

How often should healthy couples make love?

If you’re still wondering, ‘‘How many times should couples make love in a month?’’ Remember, there is no amount of sex that is better than another. Some people don’t have sex for ages and are still happy, while others prefer to have sex frequently.

Problems between couples general arise when one person in a relationship wants to have sex more often than the other. This often occurs between two people that have different libido levels. So, if you are asking yourself, ‘‘Why doesn’t my boyfriend want to have sex?’’ or ‘‘Why doesn’t my girlfriend want to have sex?’’ We recommend communicating with them. When it comes to relationships, honesty and communication are key. If you are honest and open with each other, it should open a pathway for conversation and better understanding of what the other wants or doesn’t want.

For more, we recommend reading our article where we discuss what to do if your partner’s libido is different to yours.

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