The first time

How to Have Sex with My Boyfriend for the First Time

Mary Smith
By Mary Smith. Updated: July 27, 2017
How to Have Sex with My Boyfriend for the First Time

For every female, her first time, her first sexual encounter, should always be significant and unforgettable. We recommend you try to choose the right person and understand that there is no pressure to have sex as soon as possible. If you are about to make the first step, but fear and insecurity are blinding you, don't worry. OneHOWTO wants to give you some advice on how to have sex with your boyfriend for the first time, so you feel calm and ready.

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  1. Be the one to make the decision
  2. Visit your doctor
  3. Facing the fear of pain
  4. The importance of lubrication
  5. Concentrate on sensations
  6. Don't forget the condom
  7. After the first time
  8. Experimenting continues

Be the one to make the decision

There's only one first time. There's no chance of repeating, and it's important that the step you're about to make comes from your own initiative and not any kind of social pressure. Making love for the first time with your boyfriend doesn't have to happen as soon as you get together. It doesn't matter how many of your friends have already done it, it doesn't matter if your boyfriend insists, the important thing is that you want it and you know he's the right one to participate.

Visit your doctor

If you're thinking about commencing your sexual journey, it's very important to visit a gynecologist. If you've never gone before, this is the ideal moment. Don't be scared or embarrassed to talk to a specialist about the subject so they can prescribe some kind of contraceptive. Sex has a great deal of responsibility, and it's important to protect yourself from unintended pregnancies or sexually transmitted infections. Also, it is important to address doubts you may have concerning your body, ovulating and fertility cycles so you're not afraid of making a mistake.

Facing the fear of pain

It's normal to be insecure before the first time, and one of the most stressful reasons is wondering whether it will be painful or not. Truth is, this will depend on many factors, such as the elasticity of your hymen and level of relaxation. That's why it's important that instead of concentrating on the pain, you concentrate on the episode and enjoying the experience. To do so, we'll give you some important tips in a moment.

Being with the right guy is a major factor. If he knows it is your first time and that you will be physically sensitive, he should go slowly and ensure you are comfortable. The gentler he is, the less discomfort you will feel. In general, sex is never painful for the first time, just a little uncomfortable - like any new sensation.

Please do not focus on your imperfections, be it breast size or belly, just be confident and relax. It can also be useful to know which are the best sexual positions for the first time.

The importance of lubrication

Both men and women naturally produce lubricant thanks to the arousal before sex, that's why foreplay is so important, as well as caressing, stimulation in key places...

This will not only help you relax, but will also allow you to lubricate, allowing the penis to penetrate easier. If you have detected you do not lubricate easily, you can also use a commercial lubricant, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that!

Concentrate on sensations

Sex is a wonderful world of sensations, but to have a perfect sex encounter depends on many things. However, it's not easy, that's why it's important to take pressure off making the first time "perfect". Just enjoy the moment, the sensations, the touches, kisses and your boyfriend's caresses. It's important to focus on this to be able to relax and diminish the tension. You will grow to love it.

Don't forget the condom

It's ideal to have visited your gynecologist before making love for the first time with your boyfriend. They will have helped you arrange contraception, but it's also important you don't forget to use a condom. Condoms prevent pregnancy and are the only form of contraception that avoids STDs. Using both protection methods, you'll both feel safe. Get informed about the risks of non-safe sex so you're aware of everything.

After the first time

After the first sexual encounter, depending on the flexibility and thickness of the hymen, you might feel a bit of pain with a brief bleeding. Don't worry, this can happen. It's also normal not to bleed at all, as it all depends on your body. Maybe the next time you feel discomfort between your legs or some other muscle you might have tensed during the encounter. This is perfectly normal, and it will go away after a couple of days, just like when you exercise and get stiff or tight.

Experimenting continues

If you and your boyfriend love each other and want to be together, making love for the first time will be the start of many more experiences. This will be a period in which you will both discover your sexuality and your personal tastes. Just remember to take responsibility, go to the doctor and use protection; both contraceptives and condoms. Maintain open communication with your partner in which you can both express your desires and talk about the things you'd like to try. If you have any doubts don't hesitate to go to the gynecologist or a sexologist who will be able to guide you and clear things out for you.

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  • Do not feel forced into your first time, it's a personal decision you should feel comfortable with, we all get a first time.
  • The person with whom you are with matters, as you'll remember this moment for the rest of your life, make sure your feelings are mutual and there's affection and respect in your relationship, which is the base of a good couple.

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