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How to Have Anal Sex for the First Time

Mary Smith
By Mary Smith. Updated: May 31, 2017
How to Have Anal Sex for the First Time

Even in the 21st century, there are still many taboos surrounding sex, and if there is a topic that sparks controversy, it is anal sex. Some think it's unnatural, however, more and more people dare to experience and enjoy all the pleasure that this practice has to offer. But while many couples can admit that they enjoy it, others want to try it out but they have concerns over the pain or possible accidents which prevent them from doing it; that's why at oneHOWTO we want to give you our guide with all the recommendations so you know how to have anal sex for the first time.

  1. Breaking taboos
  2. Stimulation and foreplay
  3. Using lubricants
  4. Protection
  5. Hygiene
  6. Anal pleasure for men
  7. Toys to avoid pain
  8. Above all else, be gentle

Breaking taboos

Many men enjoy having anal sex with their partners, but others don't dare to experiment for fear of thinking that liking this sexual practice could make them question their sexuality. The truth is that enjoying it doesn't mean that you are homosexual, it only means that you get pleasure from what you feel during this penetration, which is very different from the vaginal type. For girls, this taboo is based on their concerns over the pain, but through good stimulation and using lubricants and other products, the pain disappears giving way to the pleasure.

Stimulation and foreplay

As with normal sex, there should be some stimulation to allow the woman to lubricate so that both partners can enjoy the experience, and it is the same for anal intercourse so it is important to stimulate the anus with caresses, kisses, games, and by using your fingers. All this will help to dilate and relax the muscles inside the anus letting them expand smoothly during penetration. Foreplay will also help her relax, heightening arousal until she is ready to be penetrated.

Using lubricants

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce enough natural lubrication for sex therefore, it is necessary to use lubricants, preferably special ones for this type of intercourse to allow for easier and painless penetration. It is very important to lubricate the penis and the entrance to the anus well before penetration.

How to Have Anal Sex for the First Time - Using lubricants


Any sexual contact, including anal, carries the risk of contracting diseases, so it is important to use protection especially when it involves a person who is not your regular partner. It is recommended to use special condoms for this type of intercourse, which are much stronger than the vaginal type.


It is clear that to avoid any infection we should increase our hygiene measures. If you're using a condom for anal sex and afterwards want to switch to vaginal penetration, it is very important to change the condom for a new one to prevent bacteria from waste or faeces coming into contact with the vagina causing infection. If you are not using a condom, it is important to thoroughly wash the penis before continuing. Also it is not good for girls who suffer from haemorrhoids or any kind of anal problems to practice this kind of intercourse, as they could be injured and suffer from severe discomfort. Here are some more tips on hygene before anal sex.

Anal pleasure for men

Not only can men get pleasure from penetrating their girl anally, but also if he wants to, the girl can lightly lubricate her ring finger and insert it into the anus of her man to stimulate the prostate where the male G-spot is hidden. By using simple circular motions you can get him to reach climax in an incredible way.

Toys to avoid pain

For beginners to anal sex, there are several sex toys that could help you overcome your concerns, as is this case with special dildos to stimulate this area: From smaller vibrators perfect to get a taste for this kind of intercourse; butt plugs; anal beads; and special products for this kind of sex that work for dilating and reducing the pain.

Above all else, be gentle

Remember that besides overcoming taboos, lubricating and stimulating the area is very important in order to be gentle during penetration because it is not the same for the vagina and the anus. Although this body part does dilate and expand in amazing ways, it should be treated with care and delicacy in order to avoid pain and receive maximum pleasure.

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  • Anal sex is a stimulating and enjoyable practice if done in the right way, so if you both want to, go ahead and dare to do it.
  • Enjoy your sexuality without taboos or fears.
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Mark Nevin
The best tip of all is,JUST RELAX AND DON'T WORRY.

It works for me!!
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