How to Penetrate a Girl - Tips

By Mary Smith. Updated: October 18, 2018
How to Penetrate a Girl - Tips

While sex is natural and essential to human reproduction, good sex requires technique. One needs to take into account desires, sensation and taste when wanting to have good sex in a relationship. This will help you and your partner both reach ultimate pleasure and have great sex.

There are many ways to enjoy each other sexually, but even the basics can seem daunting: specifically if you are inexperienced. Although we all have a natural sexual instinct, penetration is not something purely automatic. There are some points to consider when either penetrating a woman for the first time or if you have had some trouble before. So, if you want to understand a woman’s body better, keep reading this oneHOWTO article for tips on how to penetrate a girl. We aim to help you experience more mutually enjoyable, healthy, pain-free and exciting sex.

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Lubrication for females

When you penetrate a vagina, understanding a woman’s body is incredibly important. If you are a man penetrating a woman who is not well lubricated, then you can cause damage to the both of you. If a woman is not well lubricated before penetration, friction can occur on the labia and vaginal walls. This friction, in addition to the tightness of a vagina, will also make insertion of the penis for penetration difficult. This can cause trauma, pain and can be an unpleasant experience. This discomfort can last after sex if it damages the skin.

A woman may not be well lubricated for various physiological or psychological reasons. If she is on the contraceptive pill or other medication, it can mean a lack of natural lubrication. If she is nervous or inexperienced when it comes to sex, then this might mean her mind and vagina aren't as well connecting as they should be. This is especially common if she is a virgin.

If your partner isn't naturally well lubricated, perhaps it is a sign that she isn't quite ready to be penetrated. Don't force something which might be making her uncomfortable and make sure you communicate well enough to ensure that she is feeling comfortable and is prepared.

If she does want to have sex, but is just having a little trouble getting going, you can use a personal lubricant to help lubricate her vagina (also known as lube). You can use this to lubricate the labia and the vaginal opening for penetration. In addition, you can also put some lube on the tip of the penis to help for easier penetration. You should find that this well help things get going naturally, but make sure you communicate with her to make sure that she is still not feeling pain when you penetrate her.

It is also important to realize that some penises are larger in size than others, in addition to some vaginas being tighter than others. If this is the case, lube is also recommended to help the penis enter more comfortably.

For more tips on sex depending on penis size, take a look at these following article:

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Foreplay in sex

One of the reasons your partner might not be well lubricated is that you haven't got each other going properly. Foreplay is very important as it helps you both: stimulate each other, build up the passion and intensify pleasure. Foreplay will also help to make her produce more of her own natural lubricant to make penetration smoother.

If you are worried about how to penetrate a vagina correctly, then it is possible you don't have a lot of experience. This is why we have these tips to help you. Often with those who don't have much experience, can move too fast and try to penetrate too soon.

The type of foreplay you opt for is up to you. You might want to set the mood a little bit, undress each other slowly and even start with some other types of sex like fingering or oral sex (if you are comfortable).

Oral sex in particular, can be helpful as it will help her to lubricate and get in the mood. However, it is not always a step people with not much experience feel comfortable with, so don't go too far too soon if either of you are uncomfortable. This is part of what foreplay is for; to make sure you are both in the right mood and to stimulate each other for good sex.

For more tips, take a look at the ideas for foreplay;

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A guide to her vagina

When you want to know how to penetrate a vagina correctly, one stumbling block for some is knowing where to aim for. For this reason, before having sex with a woman, it’s important to understand how a woman’s vagina functions. With time and practice you will have a better idea of where you are going, but you might need a little help. If you understand how a woman feels when penetrated, and how to where to penetrate; it will guarantee a more pleasurable and comfortable sexual experience for the both of you.

Either you or your partner can help guide the penis (or even dildo or strap-on for other types of sex/relationships). Start by moving the labia (vaginal lips) to each side. You should be able to see where the vaginal opening is and can have a better idea of where to insert. The woman can hold her labia open with two fingers and then guide with her hand towards the opening.

Not everyone's vagina is going to look the same, just take a look at the picture below!

We are talking about penetrative vaginal sex in this article, but this is not the only place you can penetrate. Read this article for pleasurable anal sex if you want to know more.

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Maintain a good rhythm during sex

The pace during sex is very important so that when entering a girl you should take into account the level of excitement, the atmosphere and the position which you are in. When all of these are taken into consideration, you can consider when to increase and decrease the pace.

We recommend avoiding always doing the same thing or penetrating your girl too hard and fast. This may be nice for a few seconds, however, it usually causes discomfort and irritation by excess friction resulting from such speed.

When penetrating a vagina, rhythm is important. If you go too fast, too soon, then it is likely neither of you will have much fun. Women often need more time to build an orgasm, so moving slowly at first and increasing the speed only when you get closer to climax will result in a better orgasm. It will increase the chances of her climaxing through penetration.

It is also important to consider how far or close she is to orgasming. For example, if you notice that she still needs time, keep the pace slower. One way of knowing whether she is close to reaching an orgasm is reading her body language and communicating with her. Take a look at these articles for more on understanding how to make a woman orgasm;

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Sex positions

One of the most important aspects when penetrating a woman, so that you both enjoy it, is to vary sexual positions during intercourse. This will not only help you avoid ejaculating too fast but also allow both new and pleasant experiences and sensations.

Once you know how to penetrate a girl correctly, you can start to play with the angles of penetration and see what you both enjoy. This can help spice up a relationship, especially if you are starting to get a little bored. Once you and your partner start to enjoy penetration more, you might want to know how to perform deep thrust to make it even better.


When having sex, instead of thinking only of yourself think about the enjoyment of both, it will be very easy to follow these tips to penetrate your girl and enhance your sex.

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I have phimosis and cannot retract my foreskin past the head of my penis, can I still have sex or will this cause issues?
OneHowTo Editor
Hi BH,

We suggest you seek a doctor's advice. All the best.
How to penetrate a fat girl?
OneHowTo Editor
The first thing you can do is be more respectful than calling them a ‘fat girl’. Secondly, many larger women can have hangups about sex (as does everyone), so here are some helpful tips to help with confidence and ensure a good time:
kipkirui benard
good tips..,what can i do to get rid of fast ejaculation.?
OneHowTo Editor
We're glad to help!
Here is an article we think might help:
before marriage i always see my penis hard n hot but after marraife i dont have such feelings or i dont get hard like i use to. what will be the reason? please help
kipkirui benard
how do i know its the time to penetrate her after a kiss?
OneHowTo Editor
Hi! We advise you to start with a bit of foreplay beforehand
You could also check out this article so you know when she is aroused:
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