Different types of kisses from the Kama Sutra I
Most people are aware of the Kama Sutra, but there are many misconceptions about it. It is not a sordid book designed to show off incredible yogic feats of love making. Rather, it is a book about human desire and love. It provides advice on different aspects of this desire, providing a holistic approach to how we might look at love philosophically as well as practically. However, while it is not a sex manual per se, it does have some advice on the physical practices lovers might enjoy. The book dedicates one chapter to an important part of lovemaking; kissing. At oneHOWTO we share the different types of kisses from the Kama Sutra to help improve your technique. This will help you with kissing both before, during and after sex.
Main types of kissing in the Kama Sutra
The kissing section of the the Kama Sutra begins with the three categories of kissing a young woman: the measured, the throbbing and the brushing.
The Measured Kiss
The measured kiss is when one partner offers their lips, but does not move them. The other person touches their lips against theirs, kissing the mouth while the other stays passive. This kiss can still be a passionate kiss, especially if you are playing around with who is dominant.
The Throbbing Kiss
According to the Kama Sutra, this kiss is very specific. It is when a kiss touches the lips, but only the lower lip moves. According to the book, the woman is a little bashful, but is working up to something more passionate.
The Brushing Kiss
This last kiss has the young woman starting to be more active. She shuts her eyes and pushes her tongue against her lover's mouth. Her eyes are shut, perhaps due to inexperience or naivety.
The Askew Kiss
This is one of the most common kisses for lovers to try. This is when the two partners tilt their heads into each other as they press their mouths together. You can allow the tongue to enter deeply and make sure noses don't get in the way. Great for passionate kisses, it's also called 'the crosswise'.
The bent kiss
Also known as the 'turned kiss', this is one of the most romantic kisses in the Kama Sutra. The bent kiss is when one takes the chin of their lover and tilts it up towards them to kiss the lips. It is perfect for foreplay as you are leading your partner towards greater sexual release. It can be quite emotionally charged.
The Direct Kiss
The direct kiss is one of the most exciting of the Kama Sutra. The couple faces each other and kisses, licks and sucks each other's lips. It is both passionate and playful at the same time. The tongue, of course, can be incorporated into these kissing games also. You can even make an end goal of the game with victory going to "the one who first catches the lower lip of the other". Also known as 'the equal kiss' as the two lovers are on an equal playing field.
The pressure kiss may seem aggressive, but some people enjoy it, it includes biting and keeping the mouth and lips of your partner closed. It's important to do it for just a short while so you don't hurt them. You can even make a circle with your fingers and kiss them against your lover's lips to reduce the pressure, but keep the passion.
This produces delicious sensations, as the top kiss involves one lover kissing the upper lip of the other. While this is happening, the other partner can kiss the lower lip, making them tingle all over.
The Kama Sutra also proposes a kiss which not everyone might be into, the clip kiss. This is where one partner touches the other's lips, tongue, or gums with their tongue, causing a "fight of the tongues" which can be very pleasurable for both. This is particularly good for those who are passionate and can involve (according to the book) a young man kissing both lips of a woman in a pincer movement. While it does show passion, this kind of kissing can also show immaturity. This is why it is often sloppy.
One of the most tender and sweet kisses is the stirring kiss. One partner kisses the other sweetly, but strongly to inflame their passion. The book suggests a woman doing this to her lover while they are sleeping. It is a classic demonstration of love and romance.
Perfect for a steamy sex prelude, when the two have struggled to resist their desire to the maximum. The contact kiss is when one partner provocatively lightly touches the other's mouth with their lips and there's light but intense contact, it's very brief but enticing.
Kiss to Ignite the Flame
The Kama Sutra includes a kiss that looks innocent but may not be. The kiss to ignite the flame occurs when one lover comes back to awaken the other with a kiss at night. Here is when you see how sexual politics have changed over the centuries. It says the woman might want to still pretend to be asleep to "discover her lover's mood" since the time is late. This is vague, but makes us think of the importance of consent.
The kiss to distract makes its purpose clear with only its name. It's used to draw the attention of your partner, but this kiss shouldn't only be limited to the mouth. It can include other parts of the body including face, ear, neck, chest and any of the erogenous zones of both the man or the woman.
The farewell kiss is a classic goodbye, when you touch your partner's mouth with two fingers after having kissed. It's simple but tantalising if done in a provocative setting. It's there to show that even after their kiss they will be thinking of each other. It could also be that one lovers takes the hand and gives it a little squeeze.
Those with long eyelashes love this kind of kiss from the Kamasutra, the eyelash kiss is when you touch and caress your partner's lips with your eyelashes. It is a sweet and intimate act, but not one you might have thought to do specifically. It might involve kissing all over your partner's body and working up to their face and eyes.
The kiss with a finger is exciting from beginning to end, as one partner puts their finger in the other's mouth, takes it out, and brushes it across their lips. This makes it a perfect invitation for oral sex.
Some kisses in the Kama Sutra can show desire and love without actually kissing your partner. A reflecting kiss is when you see the reflecting of your partner in a mirror or in water to show how intensely you desire them. Similarly, a transferred kissinvolves kissing a painting or statue, transferring the love and passion to an inanimate object (like teenagers kissing posters on their wall). It also says kissing a young boy as a transferred kiss, another example of how not all these rules are wise to follow.
The public kiss sends the clear message of a relationship or intimacy that exists when you're in public. A kiss on the hand or neck, which clearly says I love you and that shows that there's definitely something between the two of you.
Finally, the chapter of the Kama Sutra about kissing ends with some poetry. It tries to encapsulate the role of kissing between partners and stresses a certain type of equality:
"For every action there should be a counteraction, for every blow a counterblow, and by the same logic, every kiss a counterkiss."
This predates Newton's Third Law of Motion by at least a millennium and a half, but it is a different kind of physics the Kama Sutra is interested in.
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