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How to please an older woman in bed

Mary Smith
By Mary Smith. Updated: March 28, 2017
How to please an older woman in bed
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Who said that seduction is for the young? If both feel pleased the difference in years does not matter, much less today with the concept of MILF and cougar, it has become popular and many men fantasize about the idea of taking a mature woman to bed. But when it comes to women with some experience, like when it comes to taller women, seduction can be a challenge, so at OneHowTo.com, we have some tips for you to discover how to please an older woman in bed and make her yours.

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Steps to follow:

It is clear that every woman is different and there are no fixed rules for conquest. However any woman, just like a younger woman, wants to be looked after and pleased, they just have more demands, and a need for sexual fulfilment. Experience has taken hold, taboos are gone, what turns them into sex bombs is that they want to be satisfied. Do you dare to try it?


Going straight to the point is not always the best strategy when arousing an older woman. Although you must prove fearless and willing to get their attention during the process of conquest, in bed you should seek to please them the most. Do not skimp on kissing, fondling erogenous zones and much oral sex. Show her how much you want to please her and make her reach orgasm and see how you completely excite her.

How to please an older woman in bed - Step 2

Find the balance between action and be the one to take the lead. You must take the lead but let it be her who sometimes guides you with her experience. Take this opportunity to learn all the tricks of seduction that an older woman can teach.


Never show yourself as closed when in bed with an older woman. Most of them have already exceeded the typical taboos of early sexual experience and are fully willing to explore and enjoy every sensation. The more energetic and adventurous you are in bed, the more you'll excite the woman.


Always vary the sexual positions and show that you know how to do her favourites. Seize the sexual encounters to make new proposals: use toys, fulfil her fantasies, anal sex. Your desire and energy will conquer her.

You can surprise her with an orgasm without penetration or even go for something a bit more risky such as sadomasochism.

How to please an older woman in bed - Step 5

Always be available for sex. Not only to practice it but also to talk about it - something that is very important. Mature women enjoy talking about sex, it is an important source of excitement, but also want a man who is able to do so without fear of taboos.


Dedicate yourself to pleasing your woman, let her also enjoy the excitement. Do not rush to intercourse early and enjoy every moment of the encounter.

Control your sexual stamina and stay open to learning and teaching. You will see as your older woman enjoys being seduced and aroused by you.

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Sharron C
Hello, I had been married 50 yrs. Just got divorced. Hadn't had sexual intercourse about 30 yrs because of my depression. So I would preform oral sex for him for the next 5 yrs. Then one day I asked him to go down on me. He said he just couldn't do that. Well I met someone and we became good friends. He is 11 yrs younger than me. He is the most thoughtful, caring, man I have ever known. He loves my body and my wish is his command. He always starts out with a lot of foreplay. He kisses me all over. If it takes 30 minutes or 3 hours he makes sure I have orgasm. And he makes love to me for hours. My ex-husband was Wham-bam hope you got it. Roll over go to sleep. I AM A LUCKY LADY.
J. E. Shaffer
I’ve been married to my 2nd wife for 19 years, I am 61 and she is 56. I have health issues that is compounded by E. D. and use meds for it. Anyway about 9 years ago I had a bout of Lymphoma and since my diagnosis, she completely cut me off. This after being very sexually active for 10 years and we had sex 4 to 5 times a week, now I can’t even touch her, I get pushed away. Our sex life was all about pleasing her, I never allowed myself to have an orgasm until she had at least 2. My question is, How can I get her in the mood? I have tried many different approaches and keep being pushed away.
OneHowTo Editor
Hi J. E.,

There are many possible reasons your partner chooses to refuse sex, but they are specific to her situation. You will need to talk openly with her and try to come to a resolution. Looking at her perspective and considering her needs will help you to know the problem, something which will be mutually beneficial. If this doesn't help, speaking to a professional counsellor who can both assess your situation and provide practical help for it will be a good option.
Billy Phillips
What must I do to get My 75 year old Wife to want sex?
Richard Rust
Som Good Tips I learned are True
I had been married years ago up in NY for 4 years before we split up after I becme ill wth MS and many things had changed for me. I now get around with a mobile wheel chair and can for local things. It is a big trade off with some good and bad, I have been very happy here no w over all!
Junior Goboza
how do I show my interests if she doesn't notice me
OneHowTo Editor
Hi Junior,

Getting someone to notice you is often the hardest step. Here is an article which might help:

Ronnie Creekmore
i am disabled from a brain injury but no scars but im very physically fit and healthy havent had sex for about 10 years because i have ed but every morning i wakeup with a huge erection but i can make any lady orgasam under 5 minutes anytime without erection i am looking for a older lady for their experence and teach me everything no matter what i want to make you shake taking your breath away then orgasam all over my face first then wild sex for hours you will never forget me most guys dont care they want their orgasam thats all BUT ill never stop untill you orgasam vaginal clitorious the ANAL just want you to SHAKE
Nancy Carol Collins
Should not matter to a woman if you have a brain injury or not. I just lost my husband in Sept of 2021 and he was still my husband no matter what. He was completely confined to be as he had cancer and could barely walk. But he could still please me as I could also please him.
it is not easy to make a connection with older women,if you cannot get logged in
My Ex is 56
Had 3 sexual lovers from age 16 got married on 17 with a male +14 years older
She prefers Girth and missionary style
At 56 she stop sex and prefer fondling herself

I am 64 did not had sex +4 years because of this relationship

I like oral sex on her.

Any advice
Billie minkley
My wife gave up on sex when she was in her 50's, we have been married 54 years, no sex, no touching in private places, no hugging and certain no kissing for the last 15 or so years. I have never cheated on my wife and I don't think she has cheated on me. I would like sex everyday, if I could get it. I am 76 and I enjoyed sex when I was younger and think about the younger days what I would do different.
Matthew Nesbitt (oneHOWTO editor)
Hi Billie,

Have you spoken to your wife about your problem and how you can solve it together?
Louie corrigan
My question ever since i was a 13year old boy, I have never been interested in girls and women who are my age, I am now 63year single male again, when I was 50yo I met up with Liz she was 70yo at first she did not believe me tell her that I not only fancy her I wanted to take her out & take her to bed, it take me 3week to believe what I told her that I was not interested in her daughter or her friends & I was not interested in any of her money all I was interested in was a long term relationship with her, cut along story short Liz & myself​ were together in & out of bed we enjoy 10year happy year together. Even though so call friends call us name behind our back never to our face, she sadly passed away three years ago in my arms, on Xmas day morning she was my best friend, and for her age most physical relationship I have ever had she was 80year old when she passed away,I was 60year old after three years of sit at home I am ready to find someone new, & I don't know we're to go looking anymore for the older women i am still the same only interested in meeting up with women who are 70 year old or older, were would you say should I look please help if you can thanks
Hi I am 62yo now when I was 50yo & work part time for my stepbrother as a electrian, every day from 6am until lunch time, then at 2-30pm untill 5pm I work in my local pub, hardly anyone called in until one Monday a lady who was 70yo just moved in a flat facing a block of bungalow,I told her that I live in the bungalow facing were she lived we hit it off from day one I told her my name louie 50yo & if she needs anything or any electric work doing just ask me, she told me , she was 70yo, her ex-husband would beat her up,& move were she now lives, aventually he would find her and drag her back to uppermill & he beat her again, please Louie don't tell anyone what she told me,I told her Liz I only have one condition if you want me to keep quiet & that she comes out one evening with me any restaurant of her choice, also we get on so well,& enjoy each other company, instead of me just walk her to her front door I arrange for us to go for a meal, she in need of some one to look out for her treat her how a lady should be treated it became a regular every Friday evening , so after about 3months of chat & every Friday out together,I say Liz we get on so well, we enjoy each other company, what would she say if asked her if we start to go out with each other more than just Fri lunch, she ask me why would a 50yo man be interested in a elderly old woman who only got one breast & is 70yo ether your after robbing me,or it to show her up in front of my friends have a good laugh, before she left to go for Xmas at her daughter,I told her I am not interested in her money, & I would never do anything to hurt her or up set her she I know she just sit at home feeling lonely this is why I know because I feel the same after I walk her to her get door, instead of sit alone get upset worry if you're ex go to turn up, try to make her leave with him he have to go through me have nice Xmas think about what I told you what I mean is never having to feel lonely again, or Being Beaten up again by her ex,,,-im embarrassed to say as she was leaving I told her all I want for Xmas is her she look at me say piss off don't trust you. It felt really bad & boring working behind the bar with no 1 there it was coming upto the bell ring in the new year I was about to leave, when Liz came in, bought her1/2 lager, myself pint of larger, she had nearly finished her drink I had 1/2 left she wispered in my ear Louie was you being serious say you fancy me even though you know about my losing a Brest I say yes and liz I am going no were ever again with out her she said finish your drink& come to my flat before she even left the pub I was outside I left my drink she kept saying she must be mad,,& in the morning I do one before she wakes up & I never see me again, I don't need to tell you about the night together, ok she was right about me seeking away in the morning what she did.no it was my turn to open up my stepbrother firm after about 3hour my stepbrother phone up say close up, we have the rest of week off as put phone down my personal phone start ring I thought it was my stepbrother say don't close up, it was Liz say I new you be gone by the time I woke up you be gone I say what one minute let me tell you I went to work, just got off the work phone, do me one thing please don't go back to sleep because he given rest of week off,& do you know what I'm going to be doing I already told my friend I have to work longer so I can not open up the bar Liz say why won't you, I told her I'm about 3min away from your u have to press buzzer to let me in, I press door bell 3time so know it me, I walk across Liz front room, gently pull her in to my arms she said I expect you go soon I stop her there and passionatel kiss her nearly take her breath away,I am not in work until a week from now, Liz I told you I all I want was her & don't need to worry about ex-husband again if he knock on your door I tell him this time I do nothing to him if he calls again then it be him go in to hospita
Louie Corrigan
I was 52yo & work part time in my local pub at lunch time that was 10year ago, a lovely lady who told me she 70yo, call Liz, when hit it off from the start about a month later she told me her ex-husband would punch her , I told her Liz if I was with you I would never hit you , or ignore you, she say why would a guy 52yo be interested in me a elderly old aged woman who 70yo, I told her I fancy you wlt take you out any time I not working as a electrican, treat you like a sexy lady who I want to enjoy day out & evening in she told me to get lost about a weekend later she walked into the pub about 5min to close time, I bought her 1/2 larger it was very noisy because dart team won, she leaned forward & Whisper in my ear Louie please tell me the truth did I mean what I told her I say Liz I don't lie yes I fancy her & I enjoy her company as a person she said right when you finished your pint, you can walk me home still say I know that I would regret it in the morning as we talked & walk I gently pull her into my arms kiss her say the only thing I regret Liz we didn't meet up year ago but I have got a answer & a promise for you Liz we both have a lot of time to make up for, & after the first time we both enjoy each other as adults, all I can say Liz so what if you are 70yo, I 62yo I promise you that I won't be going anywhere except work she the last thing I wish to see as we go to sleep & the first thing I see in the morning we spent 10year together we told each other day& night how much we love each other, she fell asleep in my arms last Xmas Eve as we kiss & cuddle up together on the sofa I could not believe it on Xmas day I woke up kiss Liz like I did every morning she was cold as ice she passed away in the night I miss her & it worse at Xmas this is for all the older woman who still think they invisible to men, I'm a man who hopes what a priest told me the love we both share, we will meet up again & spend the rest of eternity together I hope he right
Louie, This was the sweetest, yet saddest story I’ve ever read! I literally had to reread the last part. As tears stream down my face, I want you to know how loved and safe your made Liz feel! I wish there were more men such as yourself, in this world! Thanks for sharing your story, I hope you find someone to love again, and can have a love like you had with Liz once more! Merry Christmas from me to you from Utah! God bless you!
I had been married over 15 year ago up in New York. We were married for 4 years before we went our own ways. Life has been really good down in Florida with very nice friends I exchange with. Good things are done here in fun ways but love has stopped. A nice lady with a 56 year old man would be nice if I could meet near the gulf where I live for over 15 years.
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